Opposites attract… A lot of trouble


Opposites attract and then they drive each other crazy.
Who wants that?
As I grow up, I realize that opposites do not attract. Recently, in my Public Speaking class, I took the Meyers-Briggs Type Indicator test, and as an executive member for an RSO, I took another personality test. My opposite is a procrastinating introvert. I am OK with getting to know different people and becoming friends with them, but it is frustrating.
I do not agree that opposites attract. Relationships should be easy and should require minimal work. A relationship should not be a full-time job but rather your rock or safe haven.
As a “judger,” someone who plans everything, it drives me bonkers when I am in a situation with a “perceiver,” which can be perceived as a procrastinator. When that pair is put together, there can be a lot of hurt feelings. There could be a misunderstanding about birthdays, anniversaries, and special events. If a “judger” was matched with another “judger,” they would be on the same page when it comes to planning and it would not seem like someone else is doing all the work.
When it comes to different personalities, I think that people get their feelings hurt because there are so many misunderstandings that can and will take place. I am someone who is super involved in my community and interested in growing my community. Along the way, I have met many different personalities.
Every personality type has its place within our community — that helps a community flourish. Taking someone with an introverted personality and having him or her go on a date with an extroverted personality could scare them to death and make them feel extremely uncomfortable. An extrovert may respond to that scenario by saying, “You’ve got to take risks, you’ve got to be uncomfortable sometimes. That’s life.” But an introvert may say, “I’m quite comfortable. Why change it when I don’t have to?”
I am really not sure where this whole ideology comes from.
We see the bad boy and the good girl coming together all the time in movies. However, he has to change to be good enough for her. He has to change so they can be together. They both become good people and live happily ever after.
We see that opposites do not attract, especially if they are from different worlds. You should not have to change what you are, watch what you say or be a fraud around someone you should be most honest with.
Opposites do not attrac,t because it creates so many unnecessary problems in a relationship.